Life/Heart

Dear Fuston,
I must categorically state that God has failed me in my marriage. Fox nine whole years I have been calling on Him to wipe out my hot tears with at least a gift of a baby, but for these number of years I have never been Pregnant for only I week let alone having a baby.
Each month I see my mensural period and throughout the days it will flow I feel like taking my own life. Childlessness in marriage is the last thing I can wish my enemy, it is tormentious, its burdens are dangerously heavy, its stigma and ridicule come heavier on me the woman whether she is responsible for the childlessness or not. Most times when I see two or three persons talking in a low tone o feel they are discussing my situation I am not happy because there is no child of my own that run around the house and jump on the sofa. There are times some friends tell me I am beautiful but inside I always feel miserable.

 

Dear Bro. Fuston,
I have been regularly reading your column every Friday in Nigeria Newspoint. It is my favorite. Sometime last year you condemned the act of masturbation when advising a lady that wrote you that she masturbates. But not long ago I read in the papers where a renowned and respected man of God spoke in favour of the act. There is also something I have noticed each time I masturbate. I have this great feeling of relief from a particular grip which I can't really explain.

Good morning Bro. Fuston,
I met  this guy and we began dating and after sometime he proposed to marry me and I accepted because I love him and not only that, he is handsome and also very sexually fit.
As time goes on, rumours started filtering into my ears that my lover is a married man with kids. When I approached him with this report he denied it vehemently but I insisted that we should go and meet with his parents, he refused. All he kept telling me was to get pregnant for him which I knew was not possible because of the situation of things at hand. Recently, we had a serious quarrel and I broke up with him and began to go out with another guy who seems to love me and has introduced me to his parents as his wife--to-be.

Dear Bro. Fuston,
Please, permit me space in your column to narrate my ordeal in the hands of my husband. This is a marriage of 10 years that has never been what good marriage should be. I would have rather remained single if I had known that this is what I will face in my marriage. I have been told by many people including our revered parish priest to be patient with an encouragement that the entire thing will improve for the better, yet the more tolerant and patient I become the more the trouble escalates.

Dear Bro. Fuston,
I am in a serious dilemma. My marriage is about crumbling and I am depending on you to know the right thing to do save it. But please I must beg you to reasonably put into consideration my feelings which are the driving force in whatever action I have taken.
My growing up was chequered. I became a mother at the age of 19, three years after my marriage. I got married as a virgin and my marriage is now 13 years and I have a son in the primary school and he is 10 years old.

By Chinwe Uzoechi

Sometimes, there are inexplicable moments when we, girls, don't feel like having sex. No matter which is the reason (we feel tired, we have a terrible headache, or we are not in the mood), these moments generate quarrels with our lover. Many times, men don't understand our problems or even if they understand they refuse to accept them. Women make mistakes when they don't realize that this kind of problem can seriously affect their relationship.