Life/Heart

By Chinwe Uzoechi

Sometimes, there are inexplicable moments when we, girls, don't feel like having sex. No matter which is the reason (we feel tired, we have a terrible headache, or we are not in the mood), these moments generate quarrels with our lover. Many times, men don't understand our problems or even if they understand they refuse to accept them. Women make mistakes when they don't realize that this kind of problem can seriously affect their relationship.

Good morning Bro. Fuston,
I met  this guy and we began dating and after sometime he proposed to marry me and I accepted because I love him and not only that, he is handsome and also very sexually fit.
As time goes on, rumours started filtering into my ears that my lover is a married man with kids. When I approached him with this report he denied it vehemently but I insisted that we should go and meet with his parents, he refused. All he kept telling me was to get pregnant for him which I knew was not possible because of the situation of things at hand. Recently, we had a serious quarrel and I broke up with him and began to go out with another guy who seems to love me and has introduced me to his parents as his wife--to-be.

Dear Bro. Fuston,
I am in a serious dilemma. My marriage is about crumbling and I am depending on you to know the right thing to do save it. But please I must beg you to reasonably put into consideration my feelings which are the driving force in whatever action I have taken.
My growing up was chequered. I became a mother at the age of 19, three years after my marriage. I got married as a virgin and my marriage is now 13 years and I have a son in the primary school and he is 10 years old.