Dear Mummy Temilolu,
You are one of the most important women in my life. You’ve been a great mother to me. Thank you for all you do. I’ll be 23 years old on Saturday, and I know that if I had not been reading your articles since my early teens, I would have made many sexual mistakes. Your words have helped me become a better person. Thank you so much for your constant words of encouragement. I pray God blesses you and enlarges you more than you can imagine!
Pelumi
Dear Madam,
I am a 28-year-old virgin and I met a guy who said he loves me early this year. He came all the way from Anambra State to Port Harcourt to see me. I went to see him at a friend’s house and he tried all he could to have sex with me. Yes, I love him, but I couldn’t give him what he wanted. To shorten the story, when he wanted to return to Anambra State, he refused to see me. When I asked why, he said if he saw me, his mood would change and he would start feeling the urge to have sex with me. What do I do in a situation where I’ve fallen in love with him?
I want to visit him in two months. He said he loves me but doesn’t want to date me and have sex outside. How do I get him to understand that I don’t want to have sex until my wedding night? How do I go into this kind of relationship?
He even asked me the day we met to just make him “release,” even if he didn’t go all the way, but I couldn’t oblige him because, to me, that’s impure.
I want to keep a godly relationship, but I think he doesn’t know how to control himself when he is with me. Do you think it’s okay for me to visit him?
Jennifer
My darling, precious, golden, and uncommon Jennifer,
First, I thank God with all my heart that the guy you mentioned didn’t rape you! Who would see you as beautiful as you are and ever believe you are a virgin? You’ve done so well. I’m so proud of you, and God must be proud of you too! But why are you allowing your emotions to get the better of you, such that you’re gambling with your life? When did you meet him? Where do you know him from? Do you know what you carry as a 28-year-old virgin? Only a man who pays your dowry should have access to your body and your spirituality! He doesn’t deserve you, and he’s not worth troubling your soul over, my dear—after all the pain, denial, hardship, and temptation you’ve endured. Do you know how much you are worth before God? Please don’t let the devil finally “get you.”
He shouldn’t even come close to kissing you because if he does, and with the strange affection building up inside of you, you are the one who will eventually open up her thighs. What do you think he has that you have been looking for in a man that God cannot give you in another man ten times over? Take a chill pill, my love! Don’t let loneliness and family/societal pressure push you into the hands of someone who would misuse you! Take it or leave it, any man who knows your value would ask for your hand in marriage and wait until your wedding night! This one will mess with your emotions and then bolt! You’re too much, and God is going to send you a man the world will consider too much before the month of August, in Jesus’ name! You don’t deserve any less.
Please read some of my nuggets on chastity and gain more conviction!
God has planned “wonderful wonders” for some this year, but they’ll transfer them to others through ungodly sex. May you not lose what should settle you for life! Stay chaste!
Girls, sexual intercourse is a risky spiritual transaction! You should take the risk with just one man! May your life attract a spouse who will catapult your destiny to greatness!
The more you engage in ungodly sex, the more you reduce in the spirit of God! Is there any man worth that? May the devil not kill the giant in you!
If you’re still a virgin, you don’t know what you carry; please don’t lose it yet! If you’re no longer one, abstain until your wedding night! May God reorganize your destiny!
